Communication helps a relationship stay healthy and functional. Here are some tips to make your marriage happier, more peaceful, and more enjoyable.
First, it is crucial for you to listen, honestly listen, to your significant other. eHarmony writes, “In order for a man to respect your feelings and needs, he needs to feel safe to share his true feelings with you. And the way to do that is to show him you’re not just venting your feelings but rather truly interested in what he has to say.” Listen closely and carefully to your significant other, so that he or she feels safe, “Men – just like women – need to feel like it’s okay to have their feelings, and that they will be heard and respected. And when they realize their partner isn’t really listening or interested in who they truly are or how they truly feel, they will start to shut off bit by bit.”
The next advice is to keep the criticism to a minimum. eHarmony explains, “men do not respond to criticism in relationships. Now, this might sound obvious; but women often accidentally end up criticizing a man in an effort to make the relationship better.
You’ll say, “I think we need to do more romantic things together,” and all he’ll most likely hear is, “You’re a lousy boyfriend.’” However, I would venture to say that most people do not handle constant criticism well. Criticism, especially when it is constant, gives off really negative vibes between you and your significant other.
You not only hurt him or her, but your hurt yourself in the process, because it is all about you focusing on the negatives in the other person, in the relationship, in life. It puts you in a warp of negative energy, too. Try to focus on the positives of life, of the person you are with, “start noticing the different ways he makes you happy, and thank him for it – often. Acknowledge even the smallest things he does that you like. Show him how he adds to your life, rather than focusing on the things that bother you.”
Doing this will encourage the two of you to put your best foot forward. It will also remind you why you are in love with this person. it will act as a way to encourage positivity in the relationship, “Don’t worry about him thinking that you’re faking your appreciation; just genuinely be grateful for the good things he does, and he will be more inclined to keep doing them.”
In conclusion: communicate clearly, listen cautiously, do not criticize the person, and pay attention to your significant other, notice the positives in the relationship, work on what does not click without negativity and genuine openness.
Good luck!
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